Push Your Limits: A Busy Parent's Guide to Thriving at the Edge of Your Ability

Why stepping out of your comfort zone matters—and how 10 minutes a day can spark transformation.

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When was the last time you failed on purpose?

I took last week off from posting for Thanksgiving, and it felt like failure.

Sometimes, we need to pause, as Claudia reminds us:

As parents, entrepreneurs, and creatives, we remind our kids that growth happens outside their comfort zones.

When did we last model that behavior?

James Clear captures this beautifully as I shared earlier this week:

Children test limits, failing without fear.

As adults, we forget this essential skill. We let fear, perfectionism, or the sheer overwhelm of busy lives keep us from challenging ourselves.

Real growth happens at the edge of our abilities.

Here’s the truth: Growth isn’t about working harder or doing more. Choose one area, embrace discomfort, and progress daily.

In this newsletter, I’ll share three practical steps to help you push your limits—thriving isn’t about staying comfortable.

It’s about failing smarter.

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1. Pick Your Focus Area

Growth doesn’t mean tackling everything at once. It starts with focus. Choose one skill, goal, or habit you’ve been avoiding.

Ask yourself:

• What excites me but feels a little scary?

• What would make the biggest impact on my personal or professional life?

Maybe it’s starting a side project, practicing public speaking, or learning a new hobby.

2. Lean Into Discomfort

Growth happens at the edge of your ability, and it’s uncomfortable.

• Start small: Spend just 10 minutes on your chosen focus today.

• Expect imperfection: Mistakes aren’t setbacks; they’re lessons.

Like building a muscle, daily discomfort leads to growth.

3. Track Your Progress

Progress often feels invisible, but tracking it keeps you motivated.

• Write down what you accomplished today—even just one sentence.

• Reflect on the challenges you faced and what you learned.

Consistency compounds, turning small efforts into transformation..

Mini-Challenge: Push Your Limits in 10 Minutes

Ready to grow? Here’s your challenge:

1. Choose One Thing: Identify a task or goal on the edge of your ability.

2. Set a Timer for 10 Minutes: Dive in and let discomfort guide you.

3. Celebrate Your Wins: Write down what you learned or accomplished—no matter how small.

Want to go further? Share your experience with a friend, or partner, or in the comments—it’ll keep you accountable.

Resources to Inspire Your Growth:

1. James Clear’s Atomic Habits

A guide to building better habits that stick. Find it here.

2. Peak by Anders Ericsson

Discover the science behind deliberate practice and mastery. Find it here.

3. Deep Work by Cal Newport

Learn how to focus deeply on meaningful work. Find it here.

How much time have you spent on the edge of your ability today?

Leave a comment below or share this newsletter with someone who needs a push toward growth.

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