Shiny Outcome Syndrome: Why Jealousy Is Actually Your Secret Productivity Tool

The scroll that stole your morning… might just spark your best work.

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There you stand—lukewarm coffee in hand, toddler demanding triangular toast, baby crying in the background.

You open your phone for a micro-dose of connection and—boom—someone’s 5-figure launch, Monet-level craft project, or perfect revenue graph slaps you awake.

Energy? Gone. Motivation? MIA.

Welcome to Shiny Outcome Syndrome.

“Notice when you’re frustrated, bored, or scattered… those feelings are cues that your preparation needs a tune-up.” — The PLAN

Psychologists call this benign envy—a nudge toward what you value. Studies show it can actually boost effort and creativity (Van de Ven et al., 2011). The key is redirecting the jolt.

Growth doesn’t come from endless comparison—it happens when you operate at the edge of your ability. As I wrote previously in Push Your Limits:

“Children naturally test their limits, failing repeatedly without fear or hesitation. As adults, we forget this essential skill.”

When you feel that twinge of envy, ask:

"Is this showing me where my edge might be?"

Instead of spiraling into someone else’s success, use envy as a compass to direct your own growth.

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The Morning That Sparked SHINE

5:47 a.m. You finally sneak to your laptop for a precious ten-minute writing block—only to hear a bedroom door creak open.

A toddler appears, requesting “the blue bowl, not the green one.” While you negotiate cereal logistics, your phone lights up:

“Hit 10k subscribers overnight! 🚀”

Someone else’s highlight reel, right on schedule.

Your pulse jumps, your draft stays blank, and the inner monologue fires up: Why can’t I move that fast? Am I even in the game?

Doomscrolling beckons. But instead of diving into the envy spiral, you pause and ask:

“What, exactly, am I jealous of—and how can that become fuel instead of friction?”

That single question became the first spark of SHINE, the framework that turns comparison into momentum.

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Why Jealousy Can Work for You

Benign envy = direction, not doom. It highlights the outcome you care about—then begs for a doable step.

“Momentum dies when we overcomplicate the message.” — Dan Koe

Specify

Name the outcome that stung.

“Jealous of Gina’s polished weekly newsletter.”

Honor

Acknowledge the feeling without judgment.

“I want the satisfaction of shipping, not fame.”

Identify

Shrink to one tiny move.

Outline next issue in Notes during nap time.

Notice

Track triggers; prep defenses.

Mute accounts, block apps during write blocks.

Engage

Act now, even if messy.

Hit “publish” on a rough-around-the-edges draft.

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The Burnout Check: Protecting Your Energy

Chronic comparison can hijack your productivity and even drive you toward burnout. Take a lesson from Andrew Wilkinson’s journey of from Barista to Billionaire:

"Comparing yourself to all the people above you... is a recipe for unhappiness and burnout."

Ask yourself:

• Is this comparison energizing me or depleting me?

• Do I need action right now, or a short break to reset?

• What boundaries can protect my creative energy this week?

Sometimes, envy is your system’s warning signal—lean in for self-care, not hustle.

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Let’s Get Real: The Messy Creative Process

Social media tempts us to compare our messy middle to everyone else’s highlight reel. As Tiago Forte, creator of Building a Second Brain, puts it:

“Every creator—even the most prolific—experiences doubt, false starts, and creative blocks.”

Progress isn’t linear. Often, the creators we envy are enduring invisible iterations and setbacks. Your process will be imperfect—and that’s exactly right.

• First step: Capture the feeling and jot one possible action (a quick note or voice memo).

• Next level: Set aside 10 minutes to clarify what triggered you and why.

• Long-term: Build a habit loop—when you feel comparison, you’re primed to create, not just consume.

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A Real Micro-Win (Try This Side-Quest Tonight)

Scenario: You scroll X/Twitter while waiting for pasta to boil and see another parent-creator celebrating “500 New Subs in 48 Hours!”

Your gut lurches—there’s the envy boss fight.

Time to play SHINE like a mini-game:

S – Specify

“I’m jealous of their rapid subscriber jump.”

+10 Clarity

H – Honor

“I crave the feeling of momentum, not the viral badge.”

+10 Self-honesty

I – Identify

Draft one tweet inviting readers to tomorrow’s newsletter. (5-min timer)

+15 Action

N – Notice

Mute “growth-hack” accounts until you hit send.

+5 Focus

E – Engage

Hit publish before the pasta timer dings. Imperfect, on the board.

+20 Momentum

Total: 60 XP—and you leveled up from comparison to progress before dinner was served.

Your turn: screenshot your SHINE score after your next envy encounter and drop it in the comments.

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15-Second Story Prompt

Tell me in 15 seconds: What was your last flash of comparison, and what might it be telling you about what matters most?

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SHINE in 5 Seconds

1. Specify what stung

2. Honor the feeling

3. Identify one micro-action

4. Notice the trigger pattern

5. Engage with the present—now

Envy isn’t your enemy. It’s your creative GPS.

(Screenshot, share, or stick it on the fridge.)

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  Before you go: What’s one outcome you’ve chased that might not be yours to begin with? Hit reply or comment—I read every one and may feature your insight (anonymized) next week.

Until next week, remember to take care of yourselves, and have a great weekend,

-Matt

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